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These days I feel like Spring—our Spring—the one that starts and stops, teasing and laughing with we who long for warmth and sunshine. This, for me, feels like FRUSTRATION. Have you ever wanted something so badly, put all of your focus and discipline to achieving the goal only to have to start and stop over and over again?

I felt like that today when I realized that my determination to write a blog met with a part of me that dug in her heels and simply refused. After a couple of hours of “What is your problem?!”, I decided to make tomato fennel soup and I can smell it as I am writing.

So I guess the moral of the story is “When resistance blocks flow and frustration settles in, change gears.” Do something you love and suddenly, there’s an open road to Spring once again.

I am very proud to announce that Brain-Body Health Technology Institute LLC is officially a Not-for-Profit. The road to reaching the dream has opened once again. Now, on to the next “To do List.” I will keep you posted! Thanks so much for the support. It means so much to me.

Be well.

Choice

As I write this, we are inching toward the close of 2018 and the beginning of 2019. Often, this is a time of reflection—a looking back to the ways that 2018 supported our journey of becoming, and the ways that our efforts were blocked.

I remember deciding that 2018 would be a year of “saying YES” to new opportunities that came my way out of the blue. I wanted to actively choose to partner with spontaneity. I wanted to trust that my intuition and decades of experience would lead me to exciting opportunities to grow Brain-Body Health Technology Institute. As I look back on my 2018, I can say that it worked! My choice to embrace opportunity with open arms was a good one. As I contemplate 2019, I notice that my energy has shifted and I am not in quite the same expansive, wide open place. Instead, I want 2019 to represent the year of Choosing Wisely.

I see personal choice as one of the most powerful ways we can sculpt the paths our lives will take. What we choose to do, say and think within each precious 24 hours we are given can make the difference between experiencing a sense of pride and empowerment, or becoming more burdened with the shame and guilt that comes with self-betrayal. I believe that each choice we make is an opportunity to either support or betray ourselves. I know that sounds like a bold black and white statement, but I invite you to think about it.

When you are faced with a choice, do you say “yes” because you know you will be practicing radical self-care—which is NOT selfishness!—or because you believe you “should” say yes because other people’s needs are more important than your own? Do you say “yes” to helping other people before you help yourself? Do you say “yes” or “no” because you don’t believe you deserve to feel good about yourself and your life? How often do you say “yes” when you know you need to say “no”?

The choices we make are a direct reflection of how we feel about ourselves. You can choose relationships that are a reflection of loving-kindness, compassion and celebration. You can choose to cultivate a healthy relationship with your finances. You can choose to eat and drink to support the most healthy brain-body possible. You can choose to let loose and have new adventures. I know that choosing yourself is not as easy-breezy as it sounds; but, often wondering why we fail to choose wisely for ourselves can be the catalyst for change and healing. So, think about how you can make 2019 your year of choosing wisely. You won’t be sorry, and next year when you look back on 2019, you will say “Well done!”

“Attitude is a choice. Happiness is a choice. Optimism is a choice. Kindness is a choice. Giving is a choice. Respect is a choice. Whatever choice you make makes you. Choose wisely.”

― Roy T. Bennett, The Light in the Heart

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Be well.

Support

This is the one true thing that describes all of the opportunities that the Brain-Body Health Technology Institution (BBHT) provides—support, support, support. I want you to know why I am building BBHT on a foundation of support and what each technology provides the brain-body system in the way of support, but first the “Why”.

It is Thanksgiving week and as I write to you for the first time, I want to share a story from my own life that illustrates the power of support.

Many who are reading this will relate when I say, “I was an anxious child”. I now understand the root of my anxiety, but all I remember is the feeling of crippling paralysis and pounding heart, biting nails, and pulling eyelashes and eyebrows. I have come to believe that most people feel some level of anxiety, from occasional to chronic, from mild to excruciating. This reality has kept people from liking themselves and knowing their value, experiencing joy, and building solid satisfying relationships; but, life comes with built-in support from unlikely places.

When I was in grammar school, we were required to write book reports and read them aloud at the front of the class. I can still remember standing there, hands shaking paper uncontrollably, shaking so hard I could not read what I had written. The sense of shame and humiliation was overwhelming; yet, I continued. My 7th grade English teacher and the Principal of my school, took note and took action. They insisted that I enter the Richmond Speaking Contest, a city-wide public speaking contest designed to support potential. I memorized, they listened and coached. Each day, I stood on the stage of the gymnasium/auditorium and recited the story to the two women standing in the rear who were committed to me.

My voice grew stronger, clearer, and more confident even though I was filled with anxiety from word to word. I represented my school at both the regional and city-wide speaking contest. I had a memory slip at the finals, but I recovered and was the runner-up champion. The winner of the contest became one of my dearest friends. My heart is filled with gratitude when I think of the two women who believed in me.

If we are to succeed in life, support from a variety of sources is essential. The world of health technology provides the extraordinary brain-body system the support it needs to release stuck patterns, like anxiety, so that balance (homeostasis) can be re-instated. I have continued to find ways to support myself in my lifelong relationship with anxiety. The knowledge I have gained, the experiences I have had, and my commitment to the people I serve, have become the foundation of Brain-Body Health Technology Institute.

Til next time, be well and support, support support.